Narcissists are fascinating, but not for the reasons they believe

I was a clinical psychologist in a previous life, although not in the Shirley MacLaine sense. My first novel, The Misadventures of Oliver Booth: Life in the Lap of Luxury, which follows a shady antiques dealer from Palm Beach to Paris and back again as he attempts to defraud a wealthy socialite, was recently released, and I’m frequently asked how I decided to make a transition into a life as a novelist. I’ve never really thought of it as a career change, though, more as an effort to attack the same problem from a slightly different angle.

I discovered the profession of clinical psychology in my early teenage years. I didn’t really understand what that occupation entailed, but I knew that it involved the study and treatment of dysfunctional human behavior. I was fascinated by other people and, perhaps at too young an age, I had begun reading the existentialists, who with their nihilism provided very little in the way of constructive advice about the human condition. In my doctoral training, I studied a wide range of theories of personality, but I connected best with ego psychology and the insights that it provided into character disorders such as pathological narcissism and their infantile roots. For many years, it was common for people that I would meet at cocktail parties to ask, “Are you analyzing me right now?” I would jokingly reply, “No, I’m finished,” but in fact that question was usually quite reasonable because there’s nothing more interesting than meeting new people, that is, if one takes the time to get to know them.

Every person has a story to tell. Although the well-adjusted among us can tell their own stories with some degree of insight, those who are more dysfunctional keep psychologist/writers such as myself in business.

It’s not only the professional psychologist who is interested in human behavior. In reality, we all function as amateur psychologists in virtually every interaction in which we become involved because it can only be through an informed understanding of the motivations of other people that we can successfully navigate our everyday lives. The exceptions, of course, are the survivalists who live in log cabins hidden in the backwoods of Idaho and those people who are so deeply narcissistic that the rest of us exist simply to reflect their imagined merits. It’s quite remarkable that the deeply narcissistic can often obtain dramatic successes in their chosen profession, be it investment banking, acting, or politics, but their fatal flaws usually become readily apparent in other settings when they’re among those who have no obligation or incentive to put up with them.

The bottom line is that I didn’t really choose to become clinical psychologist or a writer, those professions chose me, because I’ve always been interested in human behavior and its underpinnings. I currently divide my time between Palm Beach and Paris, both playgrounds of the rich and dysfunctional, and those locales provide me with seemingly endless material for my writing. I’ve already completed the sequel to The Misadventures of Oliver Booth: Life in the Lap of Luxury, which follows the lead character from Palm Beach to New York as he becomes involved in the world of high-end real estate, and I’m toying with the idea of throwing Oliver into the seamy world of cosmetic surgery in the third book in the series. Perhaps I’m going to need to attend a few more Palm Beach galas during the next social season before I decide what Oliver’s future will hold.

David Desmond

Two very silly people and their approaches to the Swine Flu epidemic

In a time when fear and confusion are beginning to take hold of people around the world, leave it to these two characters to make things just a little bit worse:

First we have Israeli Deputy Health Minister Yakov Litzman, who said that the reference to pigs in the name of the illness is offensive to the Muslim and Jewish religions and added that “we should call this the Mexican flu and not swine flu.”

Israeli Deputy Health Minister Yakov Litzman

Israeli Deputy Health Minister Yakov Litzman

Second, according to Gawker, self-proclaimed “Life-Stylist” Blair French (apparently she also considers herself to be “renowned,” although that’s bit of a stretch for a person with less than 7,000 Google hits on her name) issued a press release to state that, “It’s time to take a ‘siesta’ on the negativity and turn it into a ‘fiesta’ for a lifestyle you can’t find anywhere else! The multi-faceted dynamo [Blair French, referring to herself] attests that despite the health scare and reports on the drug cartels, Mexico is 99.9 percent safer for Americans than living in the U.S.” At least if you live in the wealthy white enclave of San Miguel de Allende, like she does.

As you will learn if you visit her Website, “French, who in her business blends all aspects of a person’s life together – health, fitness, food, fashion, entertainment and décor – helps create a lifestyle for someone that is uniquely one’s own. She also does catering and event planning and loves to learn about other countries and cultures.”

"Life-Stylist" Blair French

"Life-Stylist" Blair French

Wow, health, fitness, food, fashion, entertainment, and décor, and she can still find the time to serve as an expert on a worldwide viral outbreak? Color me impressed!

By the way, if you would like to track the movement of the Swine Flu (sorry Mr. Litzman!) on a Google map as it progresses around the world, click here.

Oliver Booth

DSM-IV criteria for a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, revisited

Kenneth Keen, now there’s a textbook case of a narcissistic personality disorder!

What’s that you say? I should be more careful because he could sue me for libel? Not likely, because if you look at the nine points that Mr. Keen made about himself, you’ll see that they match up perfectly with the DSM-IV criteria for the diagnosis of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder that I posted on March 20, 2009. Compare the two posts, you’ll be amazed.

On an unrelated note, I see that there will be no more Monday postings for the foreseeable future. I suppose my job will be no more difficult as one of two bloggers rather than one of three, and I should now be able to say a little bit more about the culture of Palm Beach without worrying about stepping on Oliver Booth’s chubby toes. Now if Bernard Dauphin would just step aside, I would have this blog all to myself.

David Desmond

DSM-IV criteria for a Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Some of you may know that, in addition to being a novelist, I’m also a licensed clinical psychologist. In the past, when I’ve told new acquaintances about my professional training, they’ve frequently asked me if I was analyzing them at that very moment. I would typically respond, jokingly, of course, that I was already finished, but one of the primary reasons that I chose clinical psychology as a profession was that I do have a natural inclination to try to analyze the character and motivations of people that I meet.

Of course, in a profession such as clinical psychology, which has its foundation in science, it’s very important for us to share a common technical language in order to be sure that we’re all referring to the same features if we’re discussing a particular disorder. For that reason, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders was developed by the American Psychiatric Association in 1952. We currently use the fourth edition, which is known as DSM-IV.

Given the personality features of a number of my characters in The Misadventures of Oliver Booth: Life in the Lap of Luxury, certainly including Mr. Booth himself, I thought it might be interesting to post the DSM-IV criteria for a Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

(1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
(3) believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people
(4) requires excessive admiration
(5) has a sense of entitlement
(6) is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends)
(7) lacks empathy (is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others)
(8) is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
(9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

It’s not part of the official criteria, but you can also feel pretty sure that you’re dealing with a person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder if he or she has ever asked the question, “Don’t you know who I am?”

Do you know anybody who might meet these criteria? How about yourself?

David Desmond

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